Love in An AI World

By Leibish Polnauer & Diana Jarrett

For most of us, the word AI was not in our lexicon even 5 years back. But today, it appears in almost every aspect of life. Artificial intelligence (AI) is a complex technology that performs difficult tasks which were once the domain of science fiction. And for the most part, we can see AI’s benefits.

While AI pervades just about every area of modern life, we want to stress “just about,” because there will always be aspects of our lives that cannot be overtaken by AI, specifically areas of love and personal relationships.

This ever-evolving technology influences our actions and desires in subtle and not-so-subtle ways. AI is curating in the background of the media we consume, offering preferences that subtly shape our tastes, including the content we’ll watch next. AI-generated suggestions begin to feel like our own, but in fact they’ve been gently nudged by algorithms.

AI’s personalized marketing taps into our distinct preferences, influencing spending habits and lifestyle choices. Its algorithm shapes our opinions and lifestyle aspirations, everything from beauty standards to politics.

There are Limitations

No matter how sophisticated AI becomes, it can never invade the innermost workings of the human heart. It can’t understand human love, or recognize emotional cues like detecting affection, empathy, or romantic interest through a nuanced voice, or subtle facial expressions.

Falling in love is clearly outside of an AI’s scope--its name is Artificial Intelligence. AI cannot hug or kiss us, nor create a lifelong bond. And while it may impact on the emotions we feel towards someone, only another human can ignite that flame of love.

Real Feelings for a Real World

At LEIBISH our mission is to celebrate the special love our clients have for each other and enjoy their life’s milestones with them. These joys elevate our everyday lives into unforgettable memories we cherish.  

While AI is feeding our brain enormous amounts of data, only real love experiences the emotion that springs from a man’s heart. A woman’s longing for love and being cared for cannot be satisfied with data and sophisticated machine learning, either.

We crave personal attention from those we love and can only be satisfied with real love. While AI responds to myriad inquiries with accuracy, it fails to enter into the subconscious desire to be loved.

Love Around the Globe

So LEIBISH continues to vote for real love in this ever changing world. Look at how some cultures around the globe celebrate their engagements. Though it varies greatly by region, an engagement ring is widely expected in Western and Asian cultures today.

In India, an important engagement ceremony called ROKA or SAGAI is rich with ancient tradition.

Middle Eastern cultures in the Islamic tradition create a formal written agreement called a Nikah.

Chinese societies mandate that the groom’s family give betrothal gifts called a Pin Li to the bride’s family.

In South Africa, A Zulu man gives his future bride’s parents a Lobola gift, either a cow or goats. They are quite valuable in their society. By giving these animals, they express their respect and appreciation of the bride.

Obviously if you live in Manhattan, I don’t suggest you give a cow, no matter how attractive it is. It’s best to give a time-honored and globally accepted engagement diamond or gemstone ring.

The Rise and Fall of LGD

Although LGDs came on strong in the bridal jewelry niche, when consumers learned that LGDs were only a copy of real diamonds, the products lost their worth. LGDs didn’t have the forever value of genuine earth-mined diamonds.

LGDs marketing message of being more environmentally friendly with a lower carbon foot print than real diamonds proved not to be true, as they consume vast amounts of power. Since LGDs are now considered fake, most couples commemorating a lifetime relationship prefer a natural diamond.

What’s a Real Gift of Love?

 While AI benefits much of modern life, yet some things only the human heart can accomplish like a lasting love story.

What if your fiancé proposed to you with a cow or a goat? They’re valuable commodities in Africa, but less so in Manhattan. Still, they have more intrinsic value than a 2 carat LGD.

How I See it

 An engagement gift must have value for both the giver and recipient. In our Western culture if you give a 2 carat LGD everyone knows it’s valueless. It may be bigger but it’s still fake.That’s tantamount to giving a fake goat or an artificial cow in other cultures.

 AI will affect the way we processes data. But when it comes to real love affecting the heart, it’s not easily swayed by AI. So my message is this real feelings create real lasting relationships. They must be sealed with something of everlasting value, not with fakes.